Sunday, February 17, 2008

Asian Escape

We just got back from 3 weeks in Vietnam and wow I so love Asia. I love the chaos, the noise, wonderful people, the delicious food, the gentle Buddhist vibe and just being away... I feel very at home in Thailand, Vietnam, Malaysia or Indonesia and suspect i may well have been Asian in a previous life. HA. Despite my fair kinda freckly skin...I am convinced that my love of a chilli/soy sauce - fried rice breakfast makes me a local. Even back in Oz i sometimes love to make an Asian breaki. YUM. My sister is the exact same, which is kinda interesting for 2 chicks born in rural Australia. We decided in the hospital (before Noah was even born...long process it took 3 days) that we would go on a trip. Australia offers a baby bonus (about $4500) for all new parents and yes dead baby mums do qualify. And we spent it!
So we were away for 2 important dates...Noah's due date and my birthday...
And for us...this trip worked...I had fun, I laughed, I shagged, I ate heaps and drank a bit..did i mention the sexy stuff..heeee.
A really healing aspect of the trip was the fabulous attitude of the Vietnamese..they have endured so much war and loss and yet they must be one of the most resilient (and forgiving) peoples. Made me consider how stillbirth would be viewed and dealt with there. Generally they have a close extended family so I guess most women would have that support but for many the "luxury" of grieving is probably limited. Many people are very poor and you have to work hard to survive and so you would probably have to 'just get on with it' Makes me appreciate the resources available to me and the time i can afford to deal with this shit.

6 comments:

Amy said...

Wow, I think maybe I'll move to Aus., do you think they would retro the money to me? Only kidding!

I am glad that you were able to escape especially for those dates. Very nice that you had a great time and shagged too!

Glad you are home safe. Take care!

CLC said...

I love the name Noah. I am so sorry for your loss. This whole thing sucks so bad, there are no adequate words.I wish you didn't have to join this "club".

Rita said...

I'm going to Asia too! I'm spending the IF treatment money and using the saved vacation time - I'm moving on.
I am so very glad that you went away for awhile. It does the soul good.
~Rita

The Goddess G said...

Ange,
Just stopping by to say hi. I cruise over from Mel's site. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of Noah.

My youngest was born and died in August of 2006. I'm always sorry to hear about another mom that's a member of this 'club'...but there's some awesome support from the women connected with SQ's. If there is anything I can do...please let me know.
~Carole
http://accordingtocarole.blogspot.com

Amy said...

Ange,
You still out there? If you want something fun to do I have "hit" you for a meme! Go to my blog to check it out and see what you have to do!

Anonymous said...

Great to hear you had a wonderful time away.

Hugs
xxx